"A fiancé is a man engaged to be married. A fiancée is a woman engaged to be married. Both words come directly from French and often retain the accent aigu over the first e—though the accent appears less and less frequently in English."
I used the term fiancée to refer to my spouse and Tyler was understandably confused, haha.
We live in Oregon. There've been domestic partnerships here since 2007 but marriage proper has only been possible since last spring, when a federal district judge overturned the ban on it. If he hadn't have done that it was almost a certainty that a constitutional amendment would've passed to achieve the same result in last fall's election: There was a huge campaign already underway and overwhelming public support for it. In a way I wish that had happened; it feels more affirmative to me when hundreds of thousands of votes enact something rather than a judicial decision. But hey, progress is progress (and I was also surprised and very pleased that Arizona joined the club!)