So I Asked Her Out......

The Don

The Don

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She was sitting at the front of the school, doing her homework. I walked over and sat next to her. I talked to her about a bunch of stuff for about 15 minutes and then I asked.

Me: Hey, I was wondering if you would like to go out for some coffee sometime.
Her: As like boyfriend/girlfriend or as friends?
Me: Whatever you want.
Her: Well, I already have a boyfriend, but we can still go out as friends.
Me: Okay, when would you be available?
Her: Well, I stay afterschool pretty late...
Me: How about Thursday night?
Her: Um, I'll have to see.
Me: Can I call you then?
Her: Sure
(I take out my pen and write her number on my arm.)
Me: Well, I have to go to the library. I'll see you later.
Her: Okay, bye.

My Thoughts: I'm pretty happy about what happened. Even though she might have a boyfriend, I feel like I can win her over. I won't give up.
 
[quote name='Dead of Knight']I'm sure she gave you a fake number.[/QUOTE]I had that feeling. I looked her up in the phone book and didn't see that number listed. However, the number might be her cell number. It wouldn't be right to try it right now though. If it is the right number, I wouldn't know how to explain myself when she picks up the phone. If I find out that it's not her number, I'm going to bleed from the heart.
 
[quote name='The Don']I had that feeling. I looked her up in the phone book and didn't see that number listed. However, the number might be her cell number. It wouldn't be right to try it right now though. If it is the right number, I wouldn't know how to explain myself when she picks up the phone. If I find out that it's not her number, I'm going to bleed from the heart.[/quote]

Err....use a phone booth/pay phone and try to alter your voice.
 
Dont get your hopes up, OP. You'll know your chances better (or not) when you 2 go out and talk.
If she talks bad about her b/f, then there's a chance. If she doesn't talk about him or talks positively about him, forget it.
 
[quote name='jPoD']She doesnt have a boyfriend. She just said that so you wouldnt be sad.[/QUOTE]I have a feeling she might have lied about having a boyfriend. Her friend told me she was single last week. It doesn't matter to me. I'll win her heart.
 
[quote name='hiccupleftovers']Err....use a phone booth/pay phone and try to alter your voice.[/QUOTE]Oh yeah, and say what? I think what I should have done was pulled out my cell phone right there on the spot and dialed it.
 
[quote name='The Don']I have a feeling she might have lied about having a boyfriend. Her friend told me she was single last week. It doesn't matter to me. I'll win her heart.[/QUOTE]
*hums theme of Eye of the Tiger*
 
[quote name='Trakan']Show her the other thread you made. See what she says.[/QUOTE]
:rofl:

OP, You seem like a fucking crazy stalker ( just by reading your other thread ). Don't get your hopes up bro.
 
I tried to sway a girl from her BF before. She would come to me during some of thier rough times, but never dated me and would always make back up with him. In the end I wound up with a best friend, but not a girlfriend and thats fine with me. :)

Good luck.
 
[quote name='The Don']I have a feeling she might have lied about having a boyfriend. Her friend told me she was single last week. It doesn't matter to me. I'll win her heart.[/quote]

Be ready for any eventuality, including the one where you don't win her heart and have to just move on or be satisfied with friendship.
 
There are plenty of single girls out there, why bother wasting your time with one that has a boyfriend? Statistics show that 98% of schlubs thinking they can steal a girl from an already established boyfriend are wrong. And 68% of those schlubs that are wrong also get their asses kicked. (And if she lied about having a boyfriend, she doesn't like you, so...again, don't waste your time)
 
[quote name='munch']How can you not know if she has a boyfriend? When I was in high school we always knew who was dating who.[/QUOTE]I don't see her walking around with any guys in the halls, but she might be going out with a guy in a different city.
 
[quote name='Cracka']sweet you now have a friend girl!

all the perks of a girlfriend without the physical contact! yay![/QUOTE]Having a girlfriend is not about physical contact though.
 
[quote name='The Don']Having a girlfriend is not about physical contact though.[/quote] right. if I told any of my past girlfriends that they'd've given me a bizarre look. Having a lover is often very much about the intimate(not necessarily sexual) contact that you don't have with most other people.
 
[quote name='looploop']right. if I told any of my past girlfriends that they'd've given me a bizarre look. Having a lover is often very much about the intimate(not necessarily sexual) contact that you don't have with most other people.[/quote]Otherwise we refer to that as a "friend."
 
Having a girlfriend is all about taking advantage of someone sexually, physically, and emotionally. Having a wife is all about being taken advantage of sexually, physically, and emotionally. Get in and have fun while you can!
 
[quote name='looploop']right. if I told any of my past girlfriends that they'd've given me a bizarre look. Having a lover is often very much about the intimate(not necessarily sexual) contact that you don't have with most other people.[/QUOTE]I love her, because, like me, she loves art. I love her for being intelligent and respectable to her teachers, no matter how negatively others might think of their teachers. I love her for the way she talks; she talks extrovertly to everyone, no matter if she knows the person or not. I love her for being the most beautiful human being I have ever met. Because of her, I have changed my lifestyle. People who saw my previous thread know that. I know I don't want her for physical contact, because ever since I met her, I have stopped masturbating. I have been like this for three weeks now. I have lost all lust.
 
[quote name='munch']Having a girlfriend is all about taking advantage of someone sexually, physically, and emotionally. Having a wife is all about being taken advantage of sexually, physically, and emotionally. Get in and have fun while you can![/QUOTE]

true!

you crack me up :)
 
[quote name='thespillcanvas']If she really does have a boyfriend, I hope for your sake that he's smaller than you.[/QUOTE]I don't care if he is bigger or smaller than me. I'm just going to talk to her like I'm talking to a friend. If her boyfriend thinks otherwise and wants to be an asshole about it, I'll take the hits. My love is so strong, I feel like I can take the world.
 
[quote name='The Don']She was sitting at the front of the school, doing her homework. I walked over and sat next to her. I talked to her about a bunch of stuff for about 15 minutes and then I asked.

Me: Hey, I was wondering if you would like to go out for some coffee sometime.
Her: As like boyfriend/girlfriend or as friends?
Me: Whatever you want.
Her: Well, I already have a boyfriend, but we can still go out as friends.
Me: Okay, when would you be available?
Her: Well, I stay afterschool pretty late...
Me: How about Thursday night?
Her: Um, I'll have to see.
Me: Can I call you then?
Her: Sure
(I take out my pen and write her number on my arm.)
Me: Well, I have to go to the library. I'll see you later.
Her: Okay, bye.

My Thoughts: I'm pretty happy about what happened. Even though she might have a boyfriend, I feel like I can win her over. I won't give up.[/quote]

Where do I begin...

Ok, well first of all you made 15 minutes worth of filler talk. Women can tell when you're beating around the bush. Next time just talk for about 3-5 minutes and then go in for the kill, and then LEAVE, which leads me to my second point....

When she asked you about going out, you answered with "whatever you want". Big mistake. By saying that you handed her all the power in the situation. Next time a question like that pops up come back with a smartass response like "Maybe if you play your cards right you could be my girlfriend someday, but for now you're stuck in the friend zone". Arrogant but humorous comments like that go a long way with women.

The b/f comment should have been a big red flag. At that point you should have just turned her offer down and walked away.

Next, when you told her what day you could go out and she responded the way she did, she basically said no. If women do wanna date you, they'll make time to see you, but you have to make them wanna go out with you first. You do this by being confident and assertive. It's always a good idea if you make yourself busy for a day or two then fit in time to see them on the third day. This may sound weird, but women are attracted to guys who initally seem too busy to date them. It's all apart of the "women are attracted to what they can't have" ideal.

And then number thing. Next have a pen AND paper ready. Writing her number on your arm just looks realy weird.

Take all that I've told you and remember that next time you meet a girl.
 
Here's how it would've played out if I had been in the situation...

Me: "Hey, wanna go and get coffee sometime?"
Her: "As what, bf/gf or friends?"
Me: "As divorcees, it's more fun that way.. joking, I didn't look that deep into it"
Her: "Oh.. sorry, it's just I don't like jumping into things. I'm seeing somebody right now, so I'm not looking for anything serious."
Me: "As in boyfriend, part time boyfriend, or just pain in the ass?"
Her: "A little bit of all three. But we can hang out as friends."
Me: "Technicalities are a pain in the ass too."
Her: "I don't get it."
Me: "Nevermind, no worries. How about Thursday?"
Her: "That's ok."
Me: "Does it have to be coffee? Those places suck ass, it feels like a bunch of sociatal misfits who sip overpriced coffee to attain some feeling of social importance and try to fit into their peer subcultures."
Her: "I don't know if I understand."
Me: "Well... if you don't understand, than that definately rules out the bf/gf question."
Her: "That's cool, I'm not looking for anything serious right now."
Me: "Well... wanna get shitfaced instead? We can shoot BB guns at hookers at the truck stop or something."
Her: "Ok, sounds fun!"

Here's my advice.. anybody that worried about technicalities, claims to be involved, and still agrees to free overpriced coffee... is obviously more concerned with bleeding a nice guy's wallet and collecting males like baseball cards for social acceptance. Don't get sucked into the black hole of estrogen, and be outwitted by someone who lacks the integrity and loyalty to someone they're involved in at the price of free java. It can only end up with empty bank accounts and a kiss on the cheek at best.

You'll see this girl again someday in your life.. likely when she's ringing you up at the gas station as you get a six pack late at night. High school relationships only end in teen pregnancy and divorce (most of the time), and are built on the foundations of superficiality. Trust me, 5 years, 2 kids, and one divorce later.. they become the aggressor in a bar somewhere. That's when it gets really interesting :)

When you got her number, you should've said "on second thought.. no thanks.. your boyfriend put me up to it to see how you'd react. No way in hell would I date somebody like you, and coffee is gay."
 
[quote name='The Don']I love her, because, like me, she loves art. I love her for being intelligent and respectable to her teachers, no matter how negatively others might think of their teachers. I love her for the way she talks; she talks extrovertly to everyone, no matter if she knows the person or not. I love her for being the most beautiful human being I have ever met. Because of her, I have changed my lifestyle. People who saw my previous thread know that. I know I don't want her for physical contact, because ever since I met her, I have stopped masturbating. I have been like this for three weeks now. I have lost all lust.[/quote]

lotta love talk for not even having one date with her yet and getting the "I have a boyfriend but we can be friends." line.

Might want to ease up on the love thing though. Kinda stalkerish. I would think a person would need a little more than how you see how she talks to other people and how nice she treats the teachers, before proclaiming all out love.
 
[quote name='The Don']Oh yeah, and say what? I think what I should have done was pulled out my cell phone right there on the spot and dialed it.[/quote]

Right, the pay phone is so she can't trace your number through caller I.D. and all you would need to hear is her voice saying hello to get confirmation that it was her number. Then you could uhh...hmmm....this is a tough one......fucking hang up. Brilliant!
 
[quote name='The Don']I love her, because, like me, she loves art. I love her for being intelligent and respectable to her teachers, no matter how negatively others might think of their teachers. I love her for the way she talks; she talks extrovertly to everyone, no matter if she knows the person or not. I love her for being the most beautiful human being I have ever met. Because of her, I have changed my lifestyle. People who saw my previous thread know that. I know I don't want her for physical contact, because ever since I met her, I have stopped masturbating. I have been like this for three weeks now. I have lost all lust.[/QUOTE]


I love you cause you have no clue what love is..

you LIKE her because of that shit. You use the word 'love' a little too loosely
 
[quote name='The Don']I have a feeling she might have lied about having a boyfriend. Her friend told me she was single last week. It doesn't matter to me. I'll win her heart.[/QUOTE]

Be real, you cant expect her to agree to go out with you as a boyfriend/girlfriend after only meeting you 15 minutes earlier. Or is that normal these days?
 
[quote name='Purple Flames']Where do I begin...

Ok, well first of all you made 15 minutes worth of filler talk. Women can tell when you're beating around the bush. Next time just talk for about 3-5 minutes and then go in for the kill, and then LEAVE, which leads me to my second point....

When she asked you about going out, you answered with "whatever you want". Big mistake. By saying that you handed her all the power in the situation. Next time a question like that pops up come back with a smartass response like "Maybe if you play your cards right you could be my girlfriend someday, but for now you're stuck in the friend zone". Arrogant but humorous comments like that go a long way with women.

The b/f comment should have been a big red flag. At that point you should have just turned her offer down and walked away.

Next, when you told her what day you could go out and she responded the way she did, she basically said no. If women do wanna date you, they'll make time to see you, but you have to make them wanna go out with you first. You do this by being confident and assertive. It's always a good idea if you make yourself busy for a day or two then fit in time to see them on the third day. This may sound weird, but women are attracted to guys who initally seem too busy to date them. It's all apart of the "women are attracted to what they can't have" ideal.

And then number thing. Next have a pen AND paper ready. Writing her number on your arm just looks realy weird.

Take all that I've told you and remember that next time you meet a girl.[/quote]

:applause::applause::applause::applause::applause::applause: Best post for advice for this guy so far. So true about seeming busy. Do that all the time at first. Works like a charm....they try to fit you into their schedule.
 
I have always been amused by guys who think they can steal a girl away. If a girl is so fickle she'd leave her boyfriend for you, what makes you so sure she won't do the same to you when someone else comes along with the same expectations?
Oh I'm sorry, you probably think you and this girl are destined to be together and when the girl realizes this there will be no one else in the world but you. :roll:
 
[quote name='Noodle Pirate!']Be real, you cant expect her to agree to go out with you as a boyfriend/girlfriend after only meeting you 15 minutes earlier. Or is that normal these days?[/QUOTE]No, we knew each other before this.
 
[quote name='The Don']I have stopped masturbating. [/quote]

This is the funniest thing I've ever read on this site. Time to turn in your Man Card.
 
[quote name='AngellicLulu']
Oh I'm sorry, you probably think you and this girl are destined to be together and when the girl realizes this there will be no one else in the world but you. :roll:[/QUOTE]I'll cry and be emo if that happens.
 
[quote name='The Don']I'll cry and be emo if that happens.[/quote]

And post about it all over the internet on Youtube, Myspace and of course CAG:D
 
You should call her from a pay phone at night and breath real deeply into the phone. Do it 5 to 6 times a night for a week then tell her at school after youve done it. She will see that you have a sense of humor and are commited to a project and will fall madly in love with you for it.
 
Okay, you really shouldn't get your hopes up. I missed the first thread about this so maybe I'm being too harsh, but this is what I was hearing based on the conversation posted:

Me: Hey, I was wondering if you would like to go out for some coffee sometime.
Her: As like boyfriend/girlfriend or as friends? (Translation: What does this guy want?)
Me: Whatever you want.
Her: Well, I already have a boyfriend, but we can still go out as friends. (I don't have a boyfriend, but I definitely don't want you for a boyfriend.)
Me: Okay, when would you be available?
Her: Well, I stay afterschool pretty late... (Never.)
Me: How about Thursday night?
Her: Um, I'll have to see. (No.)
Me: Can I call you then?
Her: Sure (I'll ignore your call and/or give you the wrong number.)
(I take out my pen and write her number on my arm.)
Me: Well, I have to go to the library. I'll see you later.
Her: Okay, bye. (Forever.)
 
[quote name='AngellicLulu']I have always been amused by guys who think they can steal a girl away. If a girl is so fickle she'd leave her boyfriend for you, what makes you so sure she won't do the same to you when someone else comes along with the same expectations?[/QUOTE]

My sentiments exactly. If you are able to make someone leave their significant other for you, there's a great chance that they'll just leave you if they find someone "better." It's a double-edged sword; just pick which side you want to cut yourself with.

[quote name='hiccupleftovers']And post about it all over the internet on Youtube, Myspace and of course CAG:D[/QUOTE]

With all the crap on TV, the OP might get a TV deal out of this. If that happens, Cheapy better cut a cut of the money. :lol:
 
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