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Some of you might remember me telling my GF to get out. Remember, she invited her ex over to the place I'm (solely) paying for at midnight, to drink with him until 3 am?

Everyone told me to get the hell away from her. Well, I didn't. She got a job and has been doing more around the apartment, and I told her starting next month she has to pay $300/month rent (I pay $900/month) if she hasn't found a new place to stay.

I didn't technically break up with her, and I'm taking immense pleasure in it. I've been spending more time with friends, and more time with other girls. Today I went see a movie with a hot friend of mine - my gf was supposed to be working until 5, and my friend was supposed to pick me up at 4, but my GF got home a little early (3:45ish) and answered the door... she's obviously jealous as hell, but not mad.

I don't tell her I want her to get out, because I don't. I don't tell her I love her, because I don't. I like this. I get $300 a month, she does chores, I get sex, and I still get to do whatever I want with other girls (I haven't been very physical with anybody else, and if I would be I'd let her know)... am I doing anything wrong here? I feel like I'm being underhanded, but, she knows I don't care for her like I did, and it's not like I lie to her about anything. Even if she was being duped at all - I want to say she would deserve it, after how long she took advantage of me.
 
you should cut the ties...300/month for a place to stay, i'd say she's still got the upper hand.

and what happens when you finally take a girl home? do you tell her i still live with my ex? that'll go over well.
 
[quote name='Koggit']my gf was supposed to be working until 5, and my friend was supposed to pick me up at 4, but my GF got home a little early (3:45ish) and answered the door[/QUOTE]

:applause:
 
Hell I applaud you. :applause:

Sounds like you downgraded from girlfriend to roommate with benefits. :)

I'd say you may want to ditch her if you move to a new place when your lease comes up, but until then, sounds like it's ok.

Don't be surprised if she blows up at you one night and tries to cut your dick off...but until then, good job.
 
Let me get this straight, she pays 1/3, not half but a third of the rent, can apparently bring guys over now if you do the same, you still refer to her as your "gf" in the middle of that, and you think you are the one in charge being underhanded? Sounds like to me she has it better off than you do, maybe she's the one being underhanded and using you.

What happens if you want a new girlfriend, you bring her back after a date, your ex (or non-ex whatever you'd call it) I assume, if she decided to, could make that night into a downer real freakin' quick too and I doubt the new girl would be extremely content in that situation.
 
I see nothing wrong with it. You're doing a pretty good job as far as I am concerned. Just don't get in too deep with any other chicks and watch out if you decide to bring one of them over who you know has something for you.
 
[quote name='Eviltude']I see nothing wrong with it.[/QUOTE]
Other than the fact it's going to happen all over again, with this girl and girls in the future.
 
I think things are fair. I mean, if she was paying half the rent it'd be our place, and I don't like that considering I own everything in it. As it stands, it's my place, and she'll pay me $300 a month for the priveledge of using it.

Plus, sex! Honestly, I think I'm more attractive than her... there's a few long stories about hearing what friends say about me behind my back, and two of them end in them agreeing that I'm more attractive than her. So it's not really like sex is a favor to me or anything, but, she has a nice body... a perfect body... it's just, the face is below par. God, I feel like such an ass, but it's fun as hell.

She's doing about half the chores, maybe a little more. It's the chores I don't want to do, though. I ask her to do them and she does. I do trash, dishes, vaccuum, etc, stuff I don't mind doing and ask her to do the rest.

I'm not too concerned with whether this will work in the long run or not. If she stays, yay, money sex and maid for longer, and if she goes, I'm free to play the game again. Win/win.

As for the other chicks thing, yeah, nothing can get serious as long as I live with her. No girl will steadily date me when I live with someone I'm pseudo-dating, I acknowledge that, but I'm not looking for a relationship. Hell, I'd avoid a relationship right now no matter who I met. I need a break. Playing around is fun in the meanwhile, and for that relationships don't matter.
 
Don't let her make you're food. In fact, don't leave anything you make sitting out either. If you make something and don't finish it throw the rest out because I can guarantee you she'd do something gross to it.
 
[quote name='Koggit']
She's doing about half the chores, maybe a little more. It's the chores I don't want to do, though. I ask her to do them and she does. I do trash, dishes, vaccuum, etc, stuff I don't mind doing and ask her to do the rest.
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Let's see vaccuuming, taking out the trash, dishes. Ok, so she does your laundry then?
 
[quote name='Chris in Cali']You know, you can say you're loving it, but I guarantee you this is heading for disaster.[/QUOTE]
Yep.

You'll either get reattatched to her (which it sounds like you are, anyway), or fall in love with another girl, while your "girlfriend" is still attatched to you, living with you and causing a disturbance to any other girl you want to get with in the future.
 
[quote name='Brak']Yep.

You'll either get reattatched to her (which it sounds like you are, anyway), or fall in love with another girl, while your "girlfriend" is still attatched to you, living with you and causing a disturbance to any other girl you want to get with in the future.[/QUOTE]

You don't think big enough.

I'm hoping the next update involves something huge like she went completely psycho, broke everything in the house, and dumped manure throughout the entire place.

But hey OP, enjoy it while you can!
 
[quote name='chaarlieee']If you don't give a fuck about her, then everything's fine. She should be paying $450 though, not $300.[/QUOTE]
Only if he's letting her sleep in his bed. If she's sleeping out on the couch then $300's enough.
 
[quote name='RedvsBlue']Only if he's letting her sleep in his bed. If she's sleeping out on the couch then $300's enough.[/quote]
:rofl:

That would be excellent.

"Aaaaahhhhh. Alrighty, I'm done with you, back to the couch."
 
[quote name='Koggit']she has a nice body... a perfect body...[/quote]


Mmmmkay... pixplz! kthxbai!
 
I was just going to say "Get anal" but then Gaelan beat me to it.

But really, get anal. It's good. Really good.
 
Anyone else having a hard time buying this story.

I'm sorry, but how can someone who pays 900 bucks a month for rent act so juvenial ( writing style, use of words.) I mean come on. The way you act and talk about sex, there's no way you're over 20 years old. It's not like you found the Holy Grail or something. Your reaction to having a girl around that has sex with you is similar to that of a 13 yr old that's found his Dad's porn collection.

Come on bud, if this is true, knock off the Jerry Springer shit. You're giving other Seattlites a bad name!
 
[quote name='Brak']You failed.[/QUOTE]


QFMFT.

This set up can only end in disaster...you're not supposed to bend or give any leeway on stuff like this. now you live with her again and she's gonna be a total bitch. On top of that, she's only paying 1/3rd *correction* MIGHT pay 1/3 next month and gets to bring guys over?

damn. you can try and justify it anyway you like, but you totally failed....


I get $300 a month, she does chores, I get sex, and I still get to do whatever I want with other girls (I haven't been very physical with anybody else, and if I would be I'd let her know)... am I doing anything wrong here? I feel like I'm being underhanded, but, she knows I don't care for her like I did, and it's not like I lie to her about anything. Even if she was being duped at all - I want to say she would deserve it, after how long she took advantage of me.
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this is the talk of someone who can't let another person go because they're whipped. A very classic example. She fucked up, yet you think you are somehow getting her back by making her do the dishes, giving her sex (which...ahem...ideally...shouldn't be a punishment for her..but umm..you don't...ahh nevermind) and live at a discount...
 
Yeah, I read a bit of this and then went back to your old topic, verdict is in:

You are a loser.

Quit trying to hold on to what isn't there. She sucks and she'll end up stealing all your shit or fu(king some dude on your pillow.

Get the cornhole sex and then move on, you got too few years left to be wasting time with this trick ass bitch.
 
Recipe for disaster / not a moral fiber in your body / don't stoop to her level / etc...

That said, enjoy it while it lasts, 'cause it sounds like you got it going well.
 
[quote name='Chris in Cali']You know, you can say you're loving it, but I guarantee you this is heading for disaster.[/QUOTE]

For once, I agree with this guy.
 
Is your dick made out of metal?

Or is there some sort of metal casting you can put around it at night?

'Cuz if neither of those things are true, all signs point to dickcapatation.
 
Playin' wit' FIYYAAAA-AAAYYYYYYAAAAAAAAAAAAAAA!!!!

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[quote name='Strell']Is your dick made out of metal?

Or is there some sort of metal casting you can put around it at night?

'Cuz if neither of those things are true, all signs point to dickcapatation.[/QUOTE]

She's gonna get the hivvy and give it to him just for fun...
 
the OP deserves a glittering from her. This can't work for very long.

Worst Case is you get her preggers by some freak accident and she becomes a permanent part of your life.. If i was writing it, that's what'd happen next.
 
Best thing to do in your case... nail her best friend or her sister (Mother if you have game)..... right on the couch when she walks in. Problem solved!
 
[quote name='cochesecochese']Way to go dude: You fucked up.

Everyone on this board tried to help you but you're going to be pussy whipped for life. Best of luck.[/QUOTE]
Yep.

You created the last thread because you wanted to hear the advice that we gave you. Note that I said you didn't merely want to hear advice, but you wanted to hear the "kick the slut to the curb!"

Now, like most people looking for advice, you don't use the advice you know is right, the advice you were fishing for and the advice that, more importantly, everyone else knows is the right advice -- but you go a step further, like most, and make a new topic acting like you're brilliant for not taking the advice we gave you, because you're a mixture of a pussy and pussy-whipped, scrounging for shit to make the situation sound as though you've come out on top.

This thread was created by your subconcious guilt -- it is as though you're both aware and unaware of your mistake.

As the fact I stated earlier goes: You failed.

Reality is a hard thing to take... as is advice and criticism, especially when one confuses the two with each other.
 
Don't be surprised when you come home one day and all your stuff is gone except for your magazine rack...which is kicked over.
 
[quote name='jer7583']the OP deserves a glittering from her. This can't work for very long.

Worst Case is you get her preggers by some freak accident and she becomes a permanent part of your life.. If i was writing it, that's what'd happen next.[/quote]
Yeah, from the sounds of it I hope the OP is wearing protection too, cause this girl could just happen to forget to take her pill.
So many things could go wrong with this situation. Run while you still have some semblence of your manhood left, OP.
 
I hope you enjoyed having her ex-bf coming by for drinks. I am pretty sure it will happen again, especially since she is now paying rent and seeing you go out with other girls.
 
Pretty enjoy this high now, because at the way this story is going only more harm could come out of it. Most people here are saying it's a bad idea. (and you probably thought you would get you the man! responses) Truth of the matter when you play with fire you get burned! this can only lead to more emotional problems for you and her, what about when her ex picks her up for a date you can't be mad with her because you opened up the door for this to happen.
 
[quote name='Chris in Cali']You know, you can say you're loving it, but I guarantee you this is heading for disaster.[/QUOTE]

Oh yeah. Seriously, while playing the asshole might be fun- get this girl out of your life ASAP! If she decides she's had enough of this, well, don't come whining to us when you get home one day and her and ex are pulling away in a u-haul full of your stuff.

Edit: Number 83 beat me to it. Ah well.
 
Yes, you're doing the wrong thing. The fact that you ask the question shows that you know what you're doing is wrong.

Your girlfriend messed up and needs you forgiveness. It's good to respect yourself enough to have boundaries - the 3 a.m. drinking with the boyfriend should have been the end of that relationship - but you're wrong to use it as an excuse to take advantage of her.

Whether she "knows what she's in" or not, I guarantee if sex is involved her heart is tied up in this. It's not right to play around with someone's heart and you are going to hurt her very badly. We're not put here to get even with everyone who screws us over. We're here to take care of each other. You're not taking care of her, and even if you're looking for "payback", I would say from your post that the scales are back in your favor by now anyway.
 
[quote name='defiance_17']What the hell does she care? She's living for dirt-cheap and fucking around with other guys. You lose.[/QUOTE]

Seconded. Its not like she's paying the rent and you're just sitting around mooching off her. She still has the upperhand while giving you a false sense of it.
 
[quote name='chosen1s']Yes, you're doing the wrong thing. The fact that you ask the question shows that you know what you're doing is wrong.

Your girlfriend messed up and needs you forgiveness. It's good to respect yourself enough to have boundaries - the 3 a.m. drinking with the boyfriend should have been the end of that relationship - but you're wrong to use it as an excuse to take advantage of her.

Whether she "knows what she's in" or not, I guarantee if sex is involved her heart is tied up in this. It's not right to play around with someone's heart and you are going to hurt her very badly. We're not put here to get even with everyone who screws us over. We're here to take care of each other. You're not taking care of her, and even if you're looking for "payback", I would say from your post that the scales are back in your favor by now anyway.[/QUOTE]


Man, take that shit to Oprah.
 
[quote name='chosen1s'](stuff)[/QUOTE]

Arguably the most intelligent thing in this thread by far (after all the "WTF U IDIOT" responses, even though I agree with them as well).

In fact, not even arguable. That is the smartest thing in this thread by far.

If people were smart (and they are not), then they'd realize they agree with everything chosen1s said.
 
[quote name='adamsappel']So, in the first thread you were a pussy, and now you're a dick?[/QUOTE]

Don't let his girlfriend know that otherwise all he's ever going to hear is go fuck yourself.
 
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