NEVER send first if you have 15+ more feedback than the other person. only exception is if you both have 100+, and agree to same time ship. what were you thinking? i hate how people get mad when you ask them to send first when they have no feedback. do it, or no trade, simple!
very sorry you got scammed, bud. you NEED to let Shrike4242, sp00ge, or pookymeister know, so the user's name can go into the bad trades thread, for the safety of other CAGs. i wish i could help, but i'm 2+ years unemployed myself. take care, bud.