[quote name='UncleBob']Am I the only one who finds it interesting how tipping is viewed differently here?[/quote]
It's political. Yeah, that's the ticket.
As for a threat, it's not a threat. Not from me. I don't work in food service any longer. Haven't in seven years. I'm just telling you a fact of life - servers who work in restaurants where gratuity is expected as a part of service (i.e., any restaurant with table service) will be the ones who act. Not me. If you want to be willfully oblivious to the way the world works, be my guest. It's your stomach.
Then, there are those who lean left and think of tipping as something that is *owed*. "That guy's eating here, so he has money. I don't. He owes it to me or I'm going to spit in his food."
Not owed, expected. It's part of the norms associated with dining out. We know it's a part of the norms of dining out because of (1) exemptions of minimum wage laws to commission employees and (2) the fact that servers are taxed on their tips (often indirectly as a portion of their shift sales). To not tip is to ignore norms and take advantage of the situation by failing to fulfill part of the obligation (yes, obligation) to provide gratuity for service.
You should be in love with the idea, as it's meritocracy in its purest form. Good service should be rewarded more than poor service. A flat wage for servers doesn't reward people who do their job well. In fact, there's a particular delight in the fact that, having been presented with such a microcosm of laissez-faire capitalism, you find yourself derelict in your duties to participate appropriately. Instead, you exploit the circumstances to your financial advantage, and leave servers destitute as a response. For a free market thinking person, you fail to live by your ideals - and instead, serve as a reflection of the most heinous realities of free market capitalism in practice.
If you don't like to tip, you can eat at a lot of places. Fast food joints don't expect tips. Settle yourself up to the trough at a "Golden Corral" and you won't have to tip - full disclosure, buffet style places always confused me in that they had "servers," who did little more than bring you a beverage and bus your tables. But I digress.
It's just like politics. Those on the right think "I've earned this money, it's mine to choose how I wish to use it." whereas those on the left think "Oh, they have money I want, therefore I am entitled to it or else..."
A server is a person whose interaction, promptness, politeness, and overall quality of service are their skills. You provide gratuity based on that. To fail to do so is to exploit the worker, to deprive them of part of the implicit contract of their employment. You are a free rider in an economic system that, if nobody tipped, would be altered drastically. If everybody was like you and nobody tipped, nobody would wait tables. Business owners would have to pay minimum wage salaries (or higher, given the kind of money servers are accustomed to making). That expenditure increase would ultimately be reflected in the cost of the food you purchase. You would then pay a flat rate, the same as anyone else who ordered what you did, for the service you received.
You benefit not because you don't tip, but because you don't tip and other people do. If everyone followed your method, things would change to reflect the fact that $2.35 an hour and no tips is a violation of the law. And you'd pay more in the end. So, again, you're a free rider, benefiting from everyone else's good graces of actually providing a tip.
Now, as long as we're down at the UncleBob "let's get batshit crazy and roll around in the illogical mud" house of dipshittery, you've established that you don't want to pay for the service you get. You'd rather see a scenario where wages are flattened and come from the employer, and that servers aren't motivated to give you good service for the money they expect to receive. You want to take away the dangling carrot, the financial incentive for hard work. You believe, then, that all customers should provide equal financial input for equal output.
So then you should support a single payer universal coverage health care system, yes?
You have zero interest in participating in a system of financial incentives for workers to try to be exceptional workers. So then, you're a socialist. Yes? Right? Yes?
Like I said, as long as we're getting batshit crazy, let's go hogwild.
And, AGAIN and AGAIN - Wait staff gets paid minimum wage per federal law. I don't know how to be any more clear about this. Where's that thread about people ignoring the facts when the facts don't suit their needs?
You don't understand the law particularly well.