Friend people to your 3DS. Which is the orange square smiley face on the Home Menu. They need to friend you back of course as well, which is why friending random people doesn't work unless you communicate it back to them and they add you as well.downloaded the demo friday, and played it most of sunday. just received my copy in the mail, and can't wait to play it this weekend. nice to see the jrpg coming back, first ni no kuni, and now this. anyone know how to add friends, haven't googled it yet, but ill definitely add people once i start playing.
After that, they need to somewhat regularly send commands off for them to update on your side. WIthout it, you're using old Abilinks and old Summon Friend (which can only be used once per send from a person).