Ok, I read the entire thread and now it's point-making time. Hopefully this will be, at most, just a rewordeding of someone else's point

And yes, I know that the thread has gotten somewhat off topic =P I've just been lurking around before I started posting
I've noticed people all around saying "I'm not in to girls like that" or "I'm more apt to sit at home and read a book than go to a party." Well, saying things like that are fine...if you want to turn girls away and/or not find any.
I whined to a friend about how I wasn't meeting any girls. He asked me what I was usually doing each day. I said I'd go on a walk each day, go to Safeway to get food, etc etc. Occasionally stop in at the Electronics Boutique downtown (in Spokane, WA). He said "Well fine, then when you see a girl that looks interesting, strike up a conversation. In EB? Ask her if she's heard anything good about the game she's looking at." I said "Yeah...but usually I have my headphones on and I'm listening to music." He then proceeded to yell at me.
There's nothing wrong with listening to music while walking around, obviously. I enjoy listening to music and going on walks; it's very soothing and a great way to get excercise. But if I never take off my headphones, I am broadcasting to all potentially interested girls that I have no desire to talk. Not only can I not talk to girls but have you ever seen anyone try to strike up a conversation with someone who is on the phone, listening to music, etc?
I think it's admirable to have convictions and stick by your beliefs, whatever they may be. But if you reduce a girl to "She's a slut" or "She would be incompatible" then there's no way of knowing. Maybe you can convert her to vegitarianism. Or Buddhism. Or whatever. But if you don't get out there, actually talk to people and get to know them then there's no real way of knowing.
Obviously for some of us gamers that isn't an easy thing to do

But it comes down to being out of your comfort level temporarily or not finding friends/potential bf or gfs.
Now if only I could take some of my own advice

And get myself an avatar/sig...
Oh, and
