[quote name='Mookyjooky']Yeah, so all in all - even though she cried and cried... I'm moving on. I told her maybe one day, but I dont really think it will ever come to that day.
It wasnt the cheating in the end, it was the deceit. She just kept lying, and it was hard to find an end. I dont know if I still know everything or not. Oh well, Que Sera...[/QUOTE]
Juka, rest assured this is indeed the correct decision.
Women have these bullshit defense mechanisms that kick in during such a situation. The first is the spin, the second is the justification. The third - enacted when you tell them they are a filthy
ing whore and you need to move on because, as prior said, they are a filthy
ing whore - is to cry and cry and apologize and talk about how they really, truly,
honestly want to be with you, that their mistake opened their eyes, etc etc.
There are latter tools at their disposal - running to the person they cheated on you with, convincing their friends you were the reason for the breakup and asking them to support her instead of you, doing the same with any casual/mutual friends (i.e., "pick sides"), claiming they hate you/the relationship, etc etc etc.
It's like a never ending bag of tricks they stole from Felix the Cat. They just never
ing shut up, never have an end to the bullshit. It just keeps
ing coming.
You have done the right thing. For your own sanity, do not call, do not IM, do not e-mail, do not drive by her (your?) house, throw out her things, burn gifts she gave you, etc. If you can manage, resist the temptation to do random acts of vandalism, although I personally think that a gray area singularity is created in this situation, which might give you karmic immunity.
Also, do
not consider a "one day in the future" scenario. For two reasons. 1) By then, the girl will be an even bigger filthy
ing whore. Girls do NOT mature until their 30s at best, and by then they are just boring. 2) You're only lying to yourself. It's a comfortability angle - you think some time off might cause you both to realize what was really there, and hence want to secure that sort of stability. Don't fool yourself. It doesn't happen. Much like how you can't be friends after such a thing, don't pretend a relationship can ressurect itself. I'd guess there are exceptions, but this isn't one of them.
Anyway Juka, good show. It sucks. Sucks hard. But it'll pass. Prolly take a while. Took
me a while, and the reason for that is simply because it is. Doesn't make you a pussy or anything. Anyone saying otherwise is a clueless
tard who doesn't realize bullshit and is probably still in high school.
Good luck.