[quote name='Brak']We discussed gender roles in my communications class, and I haven't been that pissed at reality in a while.
Just an onslaught of stupid shit hitting me all at once.[/QUOTE]
I remember, a little over two years ago, being in Linguistics class. It was a summer session (I was trying to graduate on time and was taking lots of courses), and the prof running the show couldn't have been more than 27 or so. He was incredibly young, well spoken, etc, and essentially came off like he really knew his stuff (although he was kind of an ass and the tests sucked).
At any rate, one day we were discussing the differences in how men and women communicate. For example, men like to one-up each other. If one of them tells a story about an injury, you can bet the next guy's story features something more harsh/gruesome/grievious. Women, however, tend to console the person.
So he opened up the discussion to everyone in class.
Now, I'm not exactly a social a person. So I don't give a shit what nameless people in a classroom think of me.
Knowing this (i.e., you guys reading this now), you can understand that it didn't take long for me to speak up after hearing some bullshit. A couple of girls began to talk about how their boyfriends didn't help them with their problems, how they chose instead to focus on solutions rather than reassurance. One of them spoke up about how "sometimes my boyfriend totally doesn't understand I'm upset and just want to words of encouragement."
Now I was dating a total bitch at the time, and we'd had similar occurrences in the past, so I had
had it.
I proceeded to talk about how women, sometimes, just don't
ing get it. We aren't trying to invalidate your negative feelings or emotions. What we, as men, want to do is
solve the issue at its core - eliminate the basis for feeling sad or upset to begin with, so that you never get mopey at all. "My girlfriend tells me that she got really upset because a professor asked her to be quiet in class a few times the other day, and called me to rant. No. Look, the deal is that if you
shut the hell up, the stupid professor won't get on your damn case, and then you won't call me and get mad when I don't say the exact right thing to you when you're expecting something else that I have no damn clue about. That's the answer - to
shut the hell up. Not to call me and whine about it, and then proceed to ruin my day because I just
don't get it."
There were several dirty looks from those of the female persuasion, and roars of laughter and applause from the men.
I'd like to think I still have people talking about that. You know, some bitch girls who will always tell their bitch friends about "this total asshole one year from Linguistics."
That's right, honey. You dwell on it like the little bitch you are.
Oddly, my current gf was in the classroom at the time, remembers it,
and still puts up with me. Which is pretty amazing, really.
[quote name='AlbinoNinja'] what is it about gender arguments that annoys you so much?[/QUOTE]
My soulbrother and I have our reasons. Of that I can assure you.
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