[quote name='tauruskatt']now who's shy, zion?
lol, what a mess i missed in the short span of not checking this thread. O.O
phrost~ it just doesn't seem right for you to blame her for 'trickery' getting you into bed, you're still going to have to deal with the consequences of your actions. either she messes with your head and you stop contact with her, or you torcher yourself more by trying to draw things out in conversation or sex. if she was just in it for the sex she wouldn't disguise it as 'come over and lets talk things out for closure' it would be 'i'm horny, have sex with me and leave'. [/QUOTE]
I do see what you're saying... but... I guess I just don't agree. I don't know if I would call it torture.. I definately don't like our relationship.. But right now, I'm fine. I feel better already... As long as I don't have to deal with her... I'm ok... It's when I do that she

s with my head. I don't *have* to... so I won't... Sometimes when we have our non-talking periods.. she'll try to talk to me, and usually I'd just converse with her a little bit, say hi and whatnot, but nothing more... I just ask her if she has anything she needs to say.. and then I just leave by saying I'm busy or something. Sometimes I do talk to her though just out of boredom... I love the girl, but I don't need her. I'm just fine without her... but I've always made the mistake of believing a dream that she sold me. I won't make that mistake anymore... I realize it's not going anywhere... so I'll just let it die.
you also can't rely on a new relationship (especially one based on a small amount of aim discussion) to just 'take your mind off of her'...sure, it might work for a little while because new relationships are exciting, but if your problem is you're attending to this ex's cracking the whip each time, it's not going to stop. In an unhealthy relationship, sex is power, and you're still struggling over who has it in your past relationship, maybe you think having sex with her now will make you the one with the power? well, it doesn't and shouldn't really work that way, anyway.
Well it's not really a new relationship. I've known this girl for a while... I'm just hoping I can chill with her and she'll like me enough to chill with me some more.. yaknow? I always liked the girl and I think it would be nice if we were better friends. I also just don't see sex exemplifying power in our relationship... I see it as an act of love...

Like I said, I love the girl.. we just don't get along...
Anyway... thanks for replying... I'm gonna update with whether or not this girl calls me later. heh heh
as a side note...I would not suggest dating a high school junior when you are in college. It won't work because you are in two different worlds. and may be mildly illegal.
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You may be right but why don't I give it a shot and see first? Also... Legality isn't really a concern to me... I do what I want. If that goes against the law, so be it, I'll deal with the consequences....