My fiance and I have been apart for the last 22 months....we talk and write all the time, but it's hard to keep a relationship going like that. But, he's coming home in 38 days.....and I've got a hotel scheduled, with Jacuzzi in it. I've ordered 10 dozen roses, and have like 3 dozen candles to light and put out. And I'm making chocolate boxes and filling them with chocolate dipped strawberries, bananas, and peach slices, and whipped cream to feed each other while in the jacuzzi.
It's just VERY important to ALWAYS show the other one how special they are to you. Because if you just expect them to know without EVER showing it, then you're probably going to get dumped.
I'm a little sappy, and go overboard......but my fiance has NEVER felt loved in his life, not even by his mother or anyone. And, I want to show him what life can be like when you're loved that much. And, he's changed so much for the better since we met. He's blossomed into a man that I'm proud and honored to be with....someone I greatly admire, and respect. And, he's doing a great job at making me always feel loved also.
So many people (and my fiance was this way) put themselves first because they figure noone else is going to. And, that selfishness hurts others...especially if you have a significant other that's putting you first. I've spent 3 years showing my fiance that he doesn't have to put himself first, because I will do that for him. And, if he'll put me first....both our backs are covered. And, it's a scary thing to do, I guess, to put your heart in someone else's hands....esp if you've been burned A LOT. But, he has put his trust and faith in me, and I'll never let him down. And, he's a million times happier now than he's ever been.
So, sell all the systems you have, if it's to help show your love for another person. I admire you. I wish you would've had a happier ending. I had the same kind-of relationship with a girl when I was in High School. Never could bring myself to stop being her friend and ask her out. But, I'm happy now...so I guess fate has a way of working things out.