I too love the epicness of this thread. i think I'll even go back and read the entire thing. sounds like some hilarity is to be found there.[quote name='perdition(troy']The majority of you guys seem terrified of living with a woman, as if she is going to suddenly turn batshit crazy and hate everything about your lifestyle.[/QUOTE]I'm saying though.. maybe some of us have some crazy habits that they just hide like maybe secret nazis or something.
[quote name='Chronis']It's just that there is no downtime anymore. Once you are living fulltime with someone, you are going to deal with all their habits consistantly. The toilet seat one is stupid, but since it's already brought up, lets us it.[/QUOTE]sure the toilet seat is metaphor but it's the perfect metaphor for what we're discussing. It's principles can be applied to anything
I say if you piss on the seat, your girl will get angry. If she's still trying to show you her nice side she'll let it slide but if you guys are serious and you've spend 5 weekends with her and 3 of those weekends you've pissed on the seat she should feel comfortable enough to smack you in the head for it. The reason relationships 'suddenly break' when marriage and moving in happen at once is because you guys aren't being open enough. I say this as someone who is admittedly not very open. Maybe if I was other aspects of my relationship wouldn't have gone down the way they did (see my recent blogpost) I'm not saying marriage doesn't change things. I wouldnt dare be so presumptuous. Making it official would rock my world. It's crazy just thinking about how much different things would be. It might even be the reason me and girl would break up if i wasn't ready for it. I will say that moving in together shouldn't be the barometer you guys are making it out to be. At the very least someone has to co-sign that it doesn't HAVE to be.
I'll yield the point that until you live together you don't get a real sense of how to work finances for two. Unless the two of you are accounting majors you can't really prepare for that. that's just one aspect of the marriage though. important sure but not insurmountable.
[quote name='Chronis']It's just that there is no downtime anymore. Once you are living fulltime with someone, you are going to deal with all their habits consistantly. The toilet seat one is stupid, but since it's already brought up, lets us it.[/QUOTE]sure the toilet seat is metaphor but it's the perfect metaphor for what we're discussing. It's principles can be applied to anything
I say if you piss on the seat, your girl will get angry. If she's still trying to show you her nice side she'll let it slide but if you guys are serious and you've spend 5 weekends with her and 3 of those weekends you've pissed on the seat she should feel comfortable enough to smack you in the head for it. The reason relationships 'suddenly break' when marriage and moving in happen at once is because you guys aren't being open enough. I say this as someone who is admittedly not very open. Maybe if I was other aspects of my relationship wouldn't have gone down the way they did (see my recent blogpost) I'm not saying marriage doesn't change things. I wouldnt dare be so presumptuous. Making it official would rock my world. It's crazy just thinking about how much different things would be. It might even be the reason me and girl would break up if i wasn't ready for it. I will say that moving in together shouldn't be the barometer you guys are making it out to be. At the very least someone has to co-sign that it doesn't HAVE to be.
I'll yield the point that until you live together you don't get a real sense of how to work finances for two. Unless the two of you are accounting majors you can't really prepare for that. that's just one aspect of the marriage though. important sure but not insurmountable.
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